2025 dating wrapped
& goals for 2026
I didn’t have a stellar year of dating. Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It was more like I had a lot of stuff going on that had nothing to do with love and relationships. I changed meds several different times, got a new job, moved, got a cat… not a lot of time to focus on dating.
In January, I went on two dates. The first was at this bougie bar with someone that had talked a big game about being kinky. But, um… the sex was just awkward. Notably, I accidentally knocked an earring out of their ear and they freaked out about it. I ended up underneath their bed searching through dust bunnies to find this tiny ass earring. And they didn’t even have the decency to stick it in from behind while I was down there.
The second date was with a straight man and it was bad! (But are we all that shocked?) It turned me off of dating for a while. It did give me a lot of things to think about in terms of how we date, where to find people to date, what I want short term and long term, what kind of people I’m attracted to, etc. So not all bad in retrospect.
I got back on the apps in the summer and found myself a fuck buddy. We had pretty great sex for a while until he got really into his bowling league (?) and we kind of fell off. We’ve talked about hooking up again but it hasn’t happened. So maybe we’ll fuck again, who’s to say?
2025 was the year I accepted that I’m monogamous and stopped trying to be poly. The problem I’ve had over the past few years is that a lot of the people I’m attracted to are polyamorous. But it’s okay that I’m not! That doesn’t mean I won’t fuck poly people or have sex with couples. I’m just not trying to date anyone that’s non-monog remotely seriously.
I had one heartbreak this year. Not something I’ve found the words to talk about but it was heavily exacerbated by serotonin syndrome which was… not cool!!! 10/10 would not recommend. I’m hoping for no heartbreaks in 2026. I feel like that would be super neat. Also no medical emergencies would also be super neat.
If you want a fun little secret… I have been sexting someone I went to high school with that lives on the opposite side of the country. And it’s been really awesome. Except that I want to fuck him and I can’t because he lives on the other side of the country! 2026 is the year we have sex, it’s gonna happen. I’m putting it out into the ether.
In 2026 I want…
More kissing!!! For myself and in society as a whole, I think we need more kissing. I need to kiss more girls. I want to see more boy kissing. Sloppy make outs. Soft kissing. Everything in between.
I want to have a make out on a dance floor. I want to have sex in a public restroom. I want to have another threesome.
In general, I want to feel sexy again. I've gotten in the habit of masturbating just to have an orgasm, but I want to try to woo myself again. Treat myself right, ya know? Light a candle, get a new toy, get into a new sexual fantasy. Something fun!
And I want to get back to sexting. Dear god, I love sexting. I didn’t do a lot of sexting in 2025 aside from man on other side of the country, which was disappointing. But I think I’m over photos. I want people to send me paragraphs on how much they need me. Step up the sexting game, everyone!
In terms of dating, I’d love to commit to going on a real date once a quarter. Anything more I think is unrealistic given my track record. I’m also not pressed to find “the one” or anything this year, as “fix my brain” and “figure out my life” are at the top of the goals I have for 2026 and I feel like that’s… plenty. So I’d love some more fun, unserious dates. I want to go on dates with women. I just want to have more fun with dating in general.
My first goal is to break in this new mattress, though.